Journal

Bodycon, Caffeine & Jugglin’ Life’s Priorities

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Dress: H&M bodycon dress (love this here | similar here, here and here) | Jacket: BCBGMAXAZARIA leather vest jacket | Shoes: Vince Camuto booties | Hat: F21 | Glasses: Chanel

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Whoever said, “do what you love and you’ll never work in a day in your life” is a damn liar!

While editing these photos I started to realized how much caffeine dependent I have became in the last 6 months (no it’s really not a prop lol). I used to never drink coffee but now if I don’t have a cup, I cannot seem to function.

In the last couple of years I have been keeping myself busy trying to maintain my career (my 9-5), my passion for creating clothes, managing every aspect of my small biz (which entails biz dev, pr, design, sew, accountant, finance, shipping & receiving, customer service, IT, you name it) and keeping up with my blog. By the end of the day I feel lucky to be able to do what I love (KTRcollection) and have a (day) job at an amazing company working with amazing people……. But some days I just feel pooped and wonder where my destination is going to be.

Then I remembered what we were taught growing up.

It’s not about arriving, it’s not about how quickly one can get there. It’s about what you take away from your experiences on the way there. It’s about the journey, the lessons learned, the people you meet along the way, and the ones who hung in there with you all the way. Growth and learning has no limit. Remembering these points really helped me stay on track and keep on going.

Well it’s 4am, I guess I better get some sleep now and put in a request at work for a clone tomorrow. :) Good night & sweet dreams!

Thigh High

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My new favorite Aries ring thanks to the Glitter Vault! Check them out for more fab accessories!

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Top: F21 Ombre sweater (similar here and here) | Bottoms: Theory pleated leather skirt | Shoes: Sam Edelman OTK suede boots | Bag: Rebecca Minkoff  | Necklace: Aqua | Ring: * The Glitter Vault Aries zodiac ring | Hat: H&M | Glasses *zeroUV via StyleSays

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When it comes to thigh high boots, I’ve always had trouble finding a pair with the perfect fit. So every year when fall rolls around, I’d find myself searching for that perfect over-the-knees boots….but search no more because I think I found my sole mate! Perfect heel height, perfect comfort level with hidden platform, perfect soft suede, perfect little laced up in the back so I can loosen or tighten for the perfect thigh high fit!

Funny short story: When I was trying these boots on, I casually mentioned to the sales associate that I’ve always had problems finding the right OTK boots because I have thick legs and thighs. She immediately disagreed (eyes-wided, lips-frowned and all) and told me I do not have big legs and I shouldn’t worry…as though it was a bad thing…I wasn’t fishing for a compliment and I think she was nice, but it makes me sad to see that even nice people can get influenced to believe that being healthy and having meat on their bones is considered a bad thing…It gets worst. She then told me that having skinny legs will look better in high heels, skirts and boots. I can’t help but laugh and I tried not to be offended because she was really, really older and I guess she just had an ancient way of thinking.

Luckily I’m kind of stuck in my own ways of thinking and told her actually thick legs are pretty damn sexy in heels, skirts and boots. :) How many young women who may already be suffering from body issues are put in situations like these each day to not like their bodies just because someone thinks their body parts are not the perfect fit for a certain style or trend? This brought me back to my post about Body Image and the Mean Girls...I have more to say, but I’ll leave it here for now since it’s 4AM and I’m feeling sorta loopy. xo

Have you ever had a shopping experience where someone either intentionally or unintentionally made awkward comments about weights and sizes? I love to hear your stories!

The Perfect Fit: Clothes and Relationships

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I really respect brands that carry a variety of sizes. ASOS for example carries regular sizes as well as sizes for the ladies with Curves and sizes for the Petite ladies! Everyone’s body is unique and I appreciate the options so I can find the perfect fit.

Tip: for a backless dress like this, I normally like to wear my sticky bra cups from NuBra. These bras comes in sizes A, B and C. I prefer the cloth over the silicon ones because it’s lightweight and stays attached, the silicon stickies can be heavy and uncomfortable. If you’re a D cup or bigger, I recommend these backless bras  with under-wire from Nordstrom for the extra support.

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Dress: Bodycon PETITE exclusive dress c/o ASOS (size UK 4)| Bag: Valentino | Shoes: Steven Madden ReaLuv sandals | Rings: Double Band rings (similar here)| Glasses: Dior cat eye

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I met someone over the weekend when I was in New York that had me really intrigued. Candice, an overwhelmingly sweet and innocent girl who just moved to the big apple. A new town filled with strangers to start a temporarily new life in hope of searching for a “new version” of herself…or at least that’s what she was told to do by someone who loves her.

Candice and I spoke for hours like we have known each other for years. After I told her I have a personal style blog that I would like to shift into lifestyle-meets-fashion, she insisted that I share her story. I was a little hesitant at first but maybe, just maybe others’ stories who’s unbiased can help empowered and lift her spirit and maybe help her in some way. That’s all I’m hoping for. Here goes…

Candice was laid off a little under a year ago and has not been having much luck finding a new job. She has a successful boyfriend name Richard who she’s been with for 4 years (living together for 2) and has plans on buying a new home together. Recently Richard decided to move to LA to focus on his career with a new business partner without first talking to Candice. When Candice found out, she thought she was going to come to LA as well. However, Richard insisted that she should move to New York so that she can independently grow as a person and thus become a “better girlfriend” and “future wife.” While Candice thought the idea was a bit irrational, she thinks that NY may be good for her to grow as a person so she agreed, with hopes that Richard will eventually come to NY to be with her.

To Candice’s surprise, Richard has no intentions on moving to NY and insisted that she move back to their current city of residence after a year or so. You see, after she told me her story, I wanted to automatically assumed Richard was a dick (pun-intended), but I know not all relationships are black and white, so maybe he deserve the benefit of doubt.

I understand that people grow and evolve throughout life. Sometimes we change enough where the relationships we have are outgrown or simply do not fit into the vision of our future. Like the dress that once fit us so perfectly, our relationships sometimes become “too small” or “out of style.” Just like a valuable relationship, should we throw out a beloved dress or find a way to make it work? Could this be Richard’s way of making their relationship work? Or is he actually throwing away a valuable thing without even realizing it?

I know not all relationship are the same and we can’t always judge something by the cover, but after digesting this issue some more and really trying to give Richard the benefit of doubt, I can’t help but feel like Richard is trying to mode and changed Candice into someone she’s not. Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic, but I like to believe that my love accepts me for me, flaws and all, and want to grow, learn and become better individuals together.

Do you think Richard is making a mistake by letting Candice go or is he genuinely trying to help hers & his relationship?

{For identity protection, all names has been change}