21 Marriage Survival Tips: Read At Your Own Risk.



9.16.15 || I can’t believe it’s been 4 years since Mr. Reed + I said our “I do’s” (Read about it HERE). Who would have guessed we made it this far and haven’t killed one another yet. :)

No one nor any relationship is perfect of course, but I truly believe it’s the bumpy roads that pushes us to grow, allows us to learn and shows us how to love (perhaps more deeply). In honor of our 4th year anniversary and the fact that we are still alive and not in jail, I want to share a few of the tips & tricks that I’ve learned along the way. Warning: I’m no expert so read at your own risk.

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1. Speak to your significant other more kindly than you speak to anyone else. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us.

2. Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming the right person.

3. Find ways to say “I love you” with the simple things like leaving post-it notes with a little message on it.

4. Ask her how her day was and listen to her (even if she goes on and on and on for hours*). Call and check up on her. Text her. Talk to her and tell her what you’re thinking.

5. Be his cheerleader. Encourage him and let him know you believe in him (unless it’s a request to put up a picture frame evenly on the wall*).

6. Don’t forget to laugh. Most couples spend the majority of their time talking logistics: who’s doing the dishes, who’s going grocery shopping, who’s paying which bills. It’s important to share these mundane tasks and have fun together.

7. Take the time to go on a date at least once a week, whether it’s a movie, dinner or just out for happy hour.

8. Don’t forget to keep up with your appearance. Just because you have seen each other at your worse, does not mean you should let go of your best.

9. Fellas, please leave the toilet seat down. Bonus points if you clean the bathroom often. Actually, let’s just have separate bathrooms.

10. Pick your battles. Not everything is worth a fight: like that one time when he forgot to replace the empty roll of toilet paper and you’re sitting there waiting for rescue.*

11. When you’re not seeing eye-to-eye, listen to understand. Don’t listen to talk. Don’t interrupt just to get your point across and then find loopholes so you can win an argument. You can’t win by beating someone else down.

12. When she cries, comfort her, hold her, buy her ice cream.

13. If you’re fighting, don’t hide his x-box or every one of his left shoe.*

14. Flirt, sext, and say dirty things to each other.

15. Don’t nag him if he doesn’t want to talk about it yet. Some men just need time to think things through. Let him know you are here when he’s ready to talk.

16. Show her you desire her.

17. Show him you admire him.

18. Once a week, do something sexually spontaneous when he gets home from work. Don’t let him know which day it will happen on so he’s on good behavior everyday hoping it will happen. ;)

19. Wear lingerie not just for him, but also for yourself.

20. For those who have kids, your marriage needs to be number one. Your spouse was there before the kids and will be there after the kids move out. Work on that relationship first.

21. Last but not least, no matter how busy life gets (work, kids, school, etc), don’t take one another for granted. Put away some time and take a trip somewhere. If you can’t afford an exotic getaway, take a weekend trip to go wine tasting, do a couple’s spa, drive down the coast, go hiking, go to an amusement park, get a hotel room in the next city and spend the night! It’s not about where you go or what you do, but it’s about spending that quality time together.

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Well, that’s all I can think of for now. Let me know which is your fave and if you have some tips of your own! Have a great rest of the week! xx, KTR


On Me: Top: ASOS bodysuit | Bottom: Topshop Joni Highwaist jeans | Shoes: Alexander Wang | Bag: Saint Laurent (Small Sac de Jour)


Chasin’ Dreams.







Top: Missguided | Bottom: American Apparel (similar)

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To the ones who still believe in dreams,

Chase them.

Chase them until you’re out of breath.

Then, Keep Running.”

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9.4.15. || They always say if your dreams doesn’t scare you, then they’re not big enough. Well, I guess my dreams are humongous because right now, I’m kind of terrified.

After 16 years+ years working in the corporate world and the last 8 at an amazing law firm, I’ve decided to take the leap of faith to chase after what I truly love…making clothes and being my own boss. It feels great to write those words, but it’s also terrifying and exhilarating and scary and exciting and surreal and unbelievable and, in so many ways, indescribable.

For the past 3+ years, I have been working nonstop. A full time career from 9-6pm followed by a full time passion from 7-3am. Having to live off caffeine, I barely slept, and when I did, I would crashed for days. My patience was short-er and my mind was on overdrive; trying to make sure I do my (day) job well, which was my priority, and then going home at night to run a small yet busy business. I’m pretty good with juggling multiple things while maintaining a calm attitude, but at some point even superwoman needs time out to rest and recharge. Even though I was living comfortably with a nice salary in a well respected position at a wonderful company and for a great boss, over time, I realized I was not pursuing my passion, nor was I growing as an individual or contributing beyond myself in a meaningful way…for myself.

What is truly important in life anyway? Work and pay bills until we die, or discover what makes us feel alive and go after it?

I think as long as our passion can provide us with a comfortable living, waking up each morning to fall in love with what we do is pretty darn worth the risk. It’s scary as hell, but life begins when we step outside our comfort zone, or so they say…It’s now or never right? I just hope I don’t end up on the couch eating cheetos all day! :)

Thank you for reading and thank you so much for your support over the years!! xx, KTR

Introducing KTRSWIM

While growing up, I have always poked my nose in some kind of hobby/business venture… From my grape juice & fresh fruit stand (because all the kids were doing lemonade and I wanted grape!), to friendship bracelets, to shoe laces that matches your top (lol, don’t ask), to handmade lingerie (Glamgerie™ )… and then KTRcollection happened. I was tired of seeing over-priced skirts & dresses and not seeing enough prints or colors that I love. So I started making them at home and posted them on my style blog KTRstyle in 2012. I guess you can say with all of my previous hobbies, I started making swimsuit also out of my own agony for not being able to find certain looks that I love.













Swimsuits: KTRSWIM by KTRcollection  | Bodychain: Monee Elizabeth | Photos by NLReed | Location: St. John, USVI

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…Even though I’m not much of a swimmer, I love the beach and maybe that’s why swimsuits has always been an obsession of mine. I particularly love styles that are a reminiscent of the 1940s & 50s, so when I started working on KTRSWIM early last year, I wanted to create something that has a vintage feel to it. I love the modesty of the one piece and the versatility of the high waist bottoms, but I also wanted something that’s fresh, playful, edgy, and a little sassy yet classy. I’m a firm believer that a one piece and high waist swimsuit is just as sexy as any string bikinis. It’s leaving a little mystery that’s kind of sexy to me. Plus, since I’m usually stuffing my face after laying out, what better way is there to cinch the hell out of my stomach than a lycra swimsuit?! :)

I hope you love this line as much as I do! You can choose from size S, M, L but for a more accurate fit, there’s an option for you to enter your exact bust, waist and hips measurements. I totally recommend making sure you get measured before placing your order because each piece will be hand made, one by one to fit each customer’s size and color request. Therefore, all pieces will take 2-4 weeks to complete depending on current volume of orders. Also, Prints tend to sell out quickly and may not be relisted, but I’ll be adding more prints in the coming weeks with updates via my Instagram. If you have any suggestions/feedback, I’d love to hear your thoughts!